But before you send any e-mails filled with moral outrage, let’s get the obvious out of the way: Savage supports same-sex marriage. His new book, “The Commitment,” makes that crystal clear as Savage chronicles the issues he and his partner, Terry Miller, struggled with as they tried to decide whether to tie the knot.

Savage worries that a big, public ceremony would “jinx” their almost decade-long relationship, while Miller isn’t interested in aping heterosexual traditions and doesn’t understand why the couple can’t just get coordinating “property of” tattoos instead. And besides, their young son — despite the best liberal teaching — thinks two boys getting married is gross.

“The Commitment” covers how they, with their families, use the occasion of their 10th anniversary to step into a brave new world no one really imagined.

SAVAGE, THE EDITOR of the Seattle alt-weekly the Stranger, sat down to write a book about his family history, but, after the 2004 election, found himself switching topics.

Marriage wasn’t something Savage considered as an option when he came out, he says. The world was a different place and there were certain assumptions he made about what would be available to him as a gay man.

Savage sees his new book and 1999’s “The Kid,” about his and Terry’s adoption of their son, D.J., as a chronicle of the possibilities that now are part of the gay world.

Savage also thinks his uneasiness about marriage is because wedding traditions are for straights‑—‑or, more specifically, straight women.

Just like every other religious, ethnic and cultural group that has its own ceremonies surrounding marriage, Savage believes it will take time for gay men and lesbians to have rituals that feel right.

AS “THE COMMITMENT” illustrates, whatever arguments for and against gay marriage Savage and Miller might ponder, it’s their son who finally makes the clearest case.

At first D.J. is opposed to the idea, but Savage recounts an early morning conversation where his son asks questions about marriage, divorce and love. Savage explains that marriage is a promise to stay in love and together.

It’s that definition of marriage that brings Savage and Miller around to their ultimate decision, and why D.J. finally decides he wants his two daddies to do the thing Savage could not fathom as a younger gay man.

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